okay…..let’s look at this whole thing from my perspective. let us say…..born, raised and should have never ever married anyone BECAUSE if i hadn’t gotten married there would have been no marital problems, no infertility because of the marital problems, no adoption because of no infertility and no marriage, no preemie because of no marriage, and that brings us up to today…….there would be no 22 year old that seems to be drinking too much, spending money on god knows what and no 17 year old that hates my guts in place of someone else and is making life hell. who knows what will happen with the 15 year old but eventually i will have to pay for that too. because i was born. right now i wish i hadn’t been.